I was challenged a few months back when I was listening to a speaker who was talking about "disipleship".  He said our society walks around with these huge metaphorical buttons that say "BUSY".  When asked by others how our week went, typically our response includes communicating how busy we were.

This cultivates a wall that we unintentionally meant to put up.  Now, people think twice before calling us, asking a favor, or anything else that has to do with "interfering" with our busy lives.

I'll never forget walking into someone's office, looking for some counsel because of some issues I was having.  I asked the man if he had some time to talk, and in he response he said "No, I'm very busy [pause]....quick sit down and tell me what you need." Obviously, that's an extreme case, but I already went in hesitating because he comes across as a busy man; and his response to me made me even more uncomfortable and feeling rushed to share what I was struggling with.  After that experience, I never went back to him.

My point is this, our lives as Christians is all about glorifying God and ministering to people.  By wearing the "busy" button, we destroy opportunities to get involved in other people's lives.  The people that impacted my life the most were those who always seemed available no matter what time I needed to talk, and I'm sure you can relate.

I'm not saying there aren't times when we legitimately don't have time to talk.  I'm saying there's a way of coming across to people that even though there are a lot of things going on in our life, they know we never seem to be too busy to talk.  That starts with guarding how we communicate our lives to people.

In my case, I try never to use the word "busy" or "crazy".  Instead I use terms such as productive, a healthy productivity, or eventful; and I typically correct people if they say or imply that I'm busy.  Another way of breaking down the wall is to some extent letting people know at the end of my conversations how good it was talking to them, and that they should call me whenever they feel like talking.  If I notice someone standing around on Sunday who seems to want to talk but I'm preoccupied fulfilling my responsibilities, I try to catch them and encourage them to call me during the week because I'd love to catch up and talk to them.

We live in a busy society, and it's hard to help people think differently about lives.  I'm still working on coming across as "not busy".  What are your thoughts?  Any suggestions?